Fear of Change - Self Reliance and Constructive Change
The main deciding factor, the thing that can mould and shape our lives the way we please, the one thing that can set in motion the conveyor belt that is our lives is… change. While seemingly a simple concept, many people overlook the fact that to achieve the constructive changes you want in life; you must first accept the fact that your life will be different. Fear of change is extremely common in most people, even people who are unhappy with their lives fear change. Change can be hurtful, but only if you prevent it from happening. Because then, you become stuck, your life deteriorates and you spiral quickly into unhappiness.
This unhappiness often manifests itself in the form of illegal activities such as drugs or prostitution, activities that have adverse affects on your health such as smoking or alcohol abuse or even unethical behavior such as promiscuity or adultery. These habits all have two things in common… they’re an impractical solution to a growing problem, and they lead only to more unhappiness.
People who can’t learn to accept changes in their lives will continue to run on the treadmill of unhappiness until they die. Why just accept that you’re not fond of your life, why not just does something about it? Too afraid that the change will disrupt the daily routine you’ve come to despise anyway. There’s no reason to fear change because change is the essence of all that can be good.
So of course, you want to live healthier and longer, you want to be happier, more cheerful and less angry. The problem is that you want it quick and easy without effort or change. Unfortunately, you’re going to have to face obstacles on this path to greatness. These obstacles and problems you face is just the natural order of things. In order to bring about great changes, you must first conquer great obstacles. Some say the journey is its own reward; other saner people, however, say that the reward is only obtained if there is a journey.
The main reason why people cannot accept change is that they fail to understand the nature of change. Many people still keep strong the beliefs of their ancestors. Change is disruptive, anarchistic and wrong. However, this is simply not the case; change is merely a logical progression of things. Change is the channeling of positive energy to bring about positive changes. If you take all of your positive and hopeful thoughts about owning a new washer and dryer and put them to use to motivate you into getting a promotion or a bonus at work, you have achieved change.
The best change you can make in your life is one of a lifestyle change. Whether it is diet, exercise or otherwise, a positive lifestyle choice will almost always contribute to a positive life. You can start with a 30-minute walk daily. Not too far, maybe to the corner store for some milk, around the block and home, you’ll feel good about yourself because you, yourself, have made change. You have stocked up on milk and you’ve exercised. Not only have you done a household chore, but also you’ve become healthier along the way!
What most people don’t know is that the thoughts that occur in your mind are soon manifested in your habits and behaviors. If you are surrounded by violent and criminal behavior or crude and repulsive acts, you will begin to exude these tendencies and commit these acts. If you watch television shows laced with nudity, violence and excessive cursing, it will present itself in your mannerisms and dialogue.
While there are many ways to let change take over your life, provide you with an extremely negative outcome, if you just keep thinking positive, and think of change and a welcome thing in your home, you’ll be on your way to success sooner than you think.