Parents: Fostering Self Reliance in your children.
Parents share some responsibility with their children to help them develop self-reliance skills to make constructive changes. You are the child’s guide. Keep in mind you will have interferences. The road will not be easy, since you will have teachers acting as guides that will often misguide your teachings, as well as others to guide your child.   When we become parents, we also become leaders in helping our children build self-reliance for constructive changes. Children need us to help them through the developmental processes.
Parents must guide and teach their children to build productive skills that benefit them as adults. Without guides, infants could not learn to walk early, ride bikes, and so on.
With good guidance, we teach our children new skills like dressing themselves, riding a bike, how to clean their rooms and even how to bathe themselves. We have guides to learn new skills and our children need guides to feel successful in their life.
Teaching children new skills takes time and a lot of effort from the parent. We need to remember to encourage them and reward them when they do something even if they fail the first time around.Â
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If your child fails to put their shoes on the right feet, do you scream at them? Sometimes we must guide our children repeatedly to help them learn. Sometimes they get on the wrong foot, which comes from differences. In short, your child learns differently than you do. So show some patients when teaching your child. Learn to praise your child when he or she follows directions. This will encourage your child to try each time you give them instructions.
Build your child’s self-reliance skills so they will have the confidence to keep trying. Teach you child to think positive and let them know just because they made a mistake that we learn from mistakes by not doing it like that the next time.Â
Help guide your child in the right direction for making changes that will benefit them. When your child makes a mistake, allow them room to choose their punishment. Help them to see the consequences that result from their mistake. Help them to understand why their actions or words are wrong.
Making constructive changes to be successful is hard for an adult; imagine what it is like for a child. If you fail to help your child develop skills to make constructive changes, your child will learn failure. Because our children fail once or a hundred times let them know, they are human. Humans make mistakes. Instead of discouraging your child, retrain him or her to help them grow.
Do not tell your child to avoid doing something he or she may enjoy because you fear the risks involved. For example, if your child wants to learn to jump rope, instead of discouraging him or her with, “You shouldn’t do this. It is dangerous.” Instead, let your child try. Give your child room to learn. We all take risks. Learn to welcome risks that do not pose serious dangers. You child needs coordination skills and jumping rope will guide them to have new skills.Â
When your child is succeeds learning the task of riding their bike praise them. Let them know that you had confidence they would ride with the other down the street. Tell them how great they do when riding their new bike. Build their self-reliance up so they will know they can do something with a little effort.
With self-reliance skills, your child will learn how to make constructive changes in their feelings about themselves and other. If your child needs to make some changes about how they feel about their teacher at school. Talk to them let them know that they can let it out and tell you anything they have on their mind. Learn to communicate with your child. If your child returns home from school with an attitude, rather than blow up and cause other problems, sit down and open a discussion with your child. Give your child room to speak his or her mind.
Parents as help your child grow in self-reliance skills for making better constructive changes in their lives. Discover your inner strengths.