Why do you feel it happened to you? And what you can do to change it
There are a lot of things that you may feel happened to you for no reason. The first thing that you will want to ask yourself is how this happened and why you. The truth is there is nothing you can to change it, however, there are things that you can do to help yourself and your family cope. When it comes to bad things, there are many things that you say you wish you did, but you can’t go back and relive it.
There is no point on going over the “what ifs”, because you can’t change anything. If you can’t change anything, then why wallow. You may not be able to change the way you feel for a long time and that’s okay. You need to allow yourself the grieving time and you should allow yourself the anger and the emotions. Then, you need to be able to find support in friends and family and then try to move on.
The only thing that you can do is to help everyone cope with the changes that lives has made. If you loose someone very dear to you, don’t get bitter. It’s not what they would have wanted from you. What you should do is ask them for help and strength to carry on. Remember, just because you lost someone doesn’t mean it’s forever. Eventually everyone meets everyone again and things are easier if you think like that. There is no reason for you to buddle everything up and cut them out of your life. You have your family and friends and you have your memories.
Memories are very important. They are what keep us strong. When we get lonely, all that is needed is a cup of a tea and a photo album. Comfort is found in the memories. If you cut yourself off from everything that reminds you, you would not be doing justice for them. It may be easier to forget, but it’s still hard to forgive. There are some people who would not want you to forget them, but forgive for the sake of others. You should talk to others about their feelings about loss and try to comfort them. You should try to keep in mind that their spirit is alive and well.
Although you are so quick to judge and blame someone, there is no one to blame in acts like this. If there was carelessness, you won’t feel any better about the accident if you push for a conviction. You should not try to get revenge. First of all, it’s not healthy, and second, it won’t bring back the life that you lost. To carry on, it’s hard when you lost someone dear to you. However, you should think about all those people who would be affected by your revenge. It won’t make you feel better and sure won’t write anything.
Leave the justice up to the courts and be okay with the ruling, regardless of what it may be. Also, don’t blame yourself or others for the loss. You can’t beat yourself down because you didn’t pick up on signs or you didn’t stay with them that night.
When they are sick for some time, for a moment, there is comfort in their death. They don’t suffer anymore. Then you feel horrible because you thought that. The truth is, no one knows why things happen and why only certain people are affected. You never know what live will hand you, but you must make the best of it. Always remember and forget, but there is a time when you need to forgive and let go.